Friday, May 8, 2009

Character First

Even the very best structure, system, style, and skills can't compensate completely for deficiencies in character.
Why does one emphasize the importance of character in the lives of all ? Because I believe that character (what a person is) is ultimately more important than competence ..
(what a person can do). (how they spell or what You think !! ))
Obviously both are important, but character is foundational. All else builds on this cornerstone. Also, I believe that courage and consideration are the key building blocks of emotional maturity, and that emotional maturity is foundational to all decisions and all relationships.
It relates to all the great dealings with others in themes of the past.
That's why I place my Seven Habits along a maturity continuum to suggest that the aim of all these habits is to help one achieve character and competence, courage and consideration.
We can then be highly effective with tasks and with people.
Why is the emotionally mature person also highly effective?
Mature people may have a lot of ego strength, but they also have high respect for other people. They balance their courage with consideration.
So they communicate in the spirit of "I and thou," the expression philosopher Martin Buber
used in his book, I and Thou.
Immature people communicate in terms of "I and it" where they treat people like objects or things, or "it and it" where they manipulate and treat themselves in the same way.
Or they may think in term of "it and thou," having respect for others, but not for themselves.
I first learned this concept from one of my professors . This is how he taught it: emotional maturity is the ability to express your feelings and convictions with courage, balanced with consideration for the feelings and convictions of others. When you can get that it will hit you like a lightning bolt !!!!
"Create a story of WOW that will be retold." -- Jeffrey Gitomer
"What is powerful is when what you say is just the tip of the iceberg of what you know."
-- Jim Rohn"
It takes a lot of things to prove you are smart, but only one thing to prove you are ignorant." -- Don Herold"
My suggestion Before one decideds to judge a damn good person Start looking inside and catch some Light and depth .. You might end up being a better person
God does gives each one of us the gift of the present use it, live it, enjoy it !!!
Alone with others .. Happy Twirlssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss
Breezy style

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